Attachment style is one of the most common and well-studied indicators of romantic success. You fall in love when you know your heart is in a safe hand. So when you catch this person in the room full of strangers, it will simply start with a sweet smile. It will fill you up gradually with positive feelings and a sense of home like the home you grew up in, surrounded by the stability and comfort.
The Negative Effects of Anxious Attachment on Intimate Relationships and How to Overcome Them
What Is an Anxious Attachment Style and How Can I Change It? | Happily Imperfect
Photo by Guille Faingold. Dating apps and matchmakers want to know dozens of things about us—our favorite foods, movies, hobbies, etc. But their questions may be missing an essential ingredient that scientists now say could be the key to a successful match: attachment style. Hundreds of recent studies worldwide confirm we each have an attachment style, which refers to how we behave in intimate relationships throughout our lives as a result of core emotions we formed in early childhood from interactions with parents and other caregivers. There are three main styles of attachment—secure, anxious, and avoidant—and while pairings of some attachment types work especially well, others can be disasters. With all this in mind, it's plenty reasonable to want to compare your own style to that of a romantic prospect before getting into a relationship.
Anxious Attachment Style? This Is How You Should Date
Attachment shapes our capacity to love and the styles of a partner can influence the success or failure of the relationship. I am the child of not one, but two anxious parents and anxiety runs deep in the roots of our family tree. From my earliest memory until I hit my thirties, I was largely unconscious of this awkward inheritance and clueless to the ways anxiety impacted my life.
Okay, so you have an anxious attachment style. Now what? How do you deal with it when it comes to dating?